Daniel Stendels side havent lost at home all season, yet Ross has been surprised at some of the negativity which followed the game and has been building in recent months.
“We were disappointed we didnt win the game because theres an expectation on us to win every game,” said Ross when reflecting on the result at Oakwell.
“A little bit surprised at some of the negativity that surrounds it because on balance it was a draw against a team who are where they are for a good reason.”
When asked if he was irritated be the criticism Sunderland have received recently, Ross replied: “I dont think irritation is the right word but I just think there has to be a realism about everything you say and do.
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“As a manager you cant be defensive or protect your players record if theres not the facts to back it up.
Sunderland fought tooth and nail for a 0-0 draw at Barnsley on Tuesday, where three points would have taken them just a point behind the second-placed Tykes.
“But the fact is weve only lost two league games this season, weve not lost a game in any competition since December, players deserve more credit than they get at times.
“People have this misconception that we should run away with this league, its absolute nonsense, disrespectful to the other teams in the league, disrespectful to the other players and managers.
Sunderland will hope to get back to winning ways when they face relegation-threatened Walsall on Saturday.
The Saddlers are 19th in the table, two points clear of safety, yet Ross doesnt believe Dean Keates side, or any side for that matter, will be pushovers in the remaining 10 games of the season.
“Every point weve achieved this season weve had to earn, really earn, and every point we earn from here on in well have had to work really hard for as well,” added Ross.
“The good thing is from within here the player understand how hard theyve had to work to get where they are and also understand theyre in a good position to achieve what they want this season.
A wind-ravaged stalemate at Oakwell saw the Reds maintain their four-point advantage over the third-placed visitors, who have a game in hand.
Barnsley can put further pressure on Sunderland by claiming a derby victory in Fridays televised game at Doncaster Rovers with the Black Cats welcoming Walsall the following day.
Stendel, whose side extended their unbeaten league home record under his watch to 19 games – equalling a post-war record of 23 league matches without defeat at Oakwell in the 0-0 draw – said: I think the draw helps us more than Sunderland.
I am not sure that (leaders) Luton will win all their games, but we have our chances. While we keep the gap to a minimum we have all the chances to be promoted directly. That is the goal.
Stendels counterpart Jack Ross also derived satisfaction from his side extending their own unbeaten sequence to 18 matches.
Sunderland and Barnsley are yet to sample a league loss in 2019, alongside Luton whose last league defeat was 3-2 at Oakwell in mid-October.
Luton hold a five-point advantage over Barnsley and a nine-point lead over Sunderland, but Ross still believes that anything canhappen between now and the end of the season.
We have kept ourselves in it and are there or thereabouts and there are a lot of games to go and lots of points to play for from now on in.
I said before the game that the three teams at the top of this league have had unbelievable seasons in what they have achieved and to come to a club who had not lost at home was not easy – far from it.
Attention switches to Barnsleys short trip to the Keepmoat Stadium tomorrow evening and despite the relatively quick turnaround, Stendel insists that his side will be ready for the challenge – and firmly focused on ending a keynote week with an important win.
He added: It is a derby and the first game at Oakwell was a difficult one. Doncaster played very well and we know it.